How to “seperate two objects” for a custom object, while using only one child to collide?

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for the love of me, I cannot find where is “include only in parent collision mask” in custom collision mask

in this discussion: General questions about custom objects
there is apparently this feature, that i cannot find anywhere

I want to use “seperate two objects” for a custom object (a tank) but I only want the base to collide